Caryl Greenberg, MSW, LSW
How To Avoid Disappointment Near The Holidays
Do you put pressure on yourselves year after year because of ‘New Year’s Resolutions’? Many of us remember the plans and promises we made to ourselves the previous year, and even the year before that and realizing our disappointment when we don’t come near realizing those goals. Perhaps we aim higher the following year to compensate for not reaching our goal in the first place and become more disheartened when those goals are not reached yet again. So you get the picture. It can become a vicious cycle of setting ourselves up for failure. There is a lot of self-prescribed pressure for us at the end of each year. Reevaluating how we want to improve our physical, emotional and perhaps medical well-being is valuable. As human beings it’s important to constantly grow as a person, to improve interpersonal relationships and of course try to figure out how to be and feel healthy. So how can we achieve this realistically? Do not make goals that are unattainable and too specific. Hoping to achieve a 40 lb. weight loss is not unreasonable but if you have been hoping to achieve this for several years what makes you think this year will be any different? Modify the goal. Vow to take steps to be healthier and there is a good chance that a consequence of some behavior change will be weight loss. Don’t set goals that are beyond your control. An example of this is to aspire to reconcile friendships or family relationships. We only have control over our own actions. Decide to reach out to others by calling or writing and then at least you can achieve what you set out to do. If the relationship blossoms that is wonderful but you will gain satisfaction in knowing you did what you can do and met your goal. Here is something you can do for free and quite easily. SMILE. This simple thing lets people know they can approach you. So if you decide to make a resolution this year add smiling to your list and see what happens.
Monthly Bereavement Group: Monday, Dec. 17th 10:45am
Anyone who has suffered the loss of a spouse or partner
is welcome to attend the monthly bereavement group. Please do not be late. Questions?
Please call Caryl 732.329.4000 x 7212
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What's on Your Mind
"What's On Your Mind" meets on Fridays at 1:45 p.m. to discuss current events and information that interests you. We welcome new members. You can drop in anytime. Call Caryl for more information.
Monthly Bereavement Support Group
Ongoing support group next meeting Nov 19th 10:45am. Participants offer mutual support to each other as we share our struggles and grief in a safe non-judgmental venue.
A weekly group using literature as a conduit for discussion. Participants share thoughts and feelings about what they have read and relate it ‘if applicable’ to their life experience. We meet every Thursday (except the first Thursday of the month) at 10:30 am. Please call Caryl for more information.
VISION LOSS SUPPORT GROUP
Meets the first Friday of every month at 10:30 a.m. in the conference room. This is an opportunity to meet new people, share information and benefit from mutual support.
Veterans age 55 + meet monthly to share stories and strive to re-create the camaraderie that is experienced when sharing a common bond. This group meets monthly on the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 10:45 a.m.
Social Work Services
As more individuals are choosing to ‘age in place’, the senior center offers ‘home visits’ by the Social Worker to the HOMEBOUND elderly. We can provide limited case management services, emotional support and counseling. Many issues include loss, care giving concerns and tensions, coping with health problems, relationship issues, independence, depression, substance abuse, isolation and more. The Social Worker also sees individuals and couples on site. Please contact Caryl Greenberg for further information.
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